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Why church events often do more harm than good

Why church events often do more harm than good

Blog Post 33 - Feed the Bay Truck

A ministry working with troubled youth couldn’t find any churches to provide mentors willing to invest the long, painstaking hours required to lead them into a relationship with the Lord and a better way of life.  Gradually, as the ministry sought Christian mentors through all available avenues, a few stepped up.  When prodding to learn what each of these mentors had in common, it turned out they had all been discipled by another individual.  Someone had invested in them the same way they were now pouring into someone else.

Not enough churches are challenging members to step out of their comfort zones and do the hard work of building intentional relationships and loving people to Christ over the longer term.  Instead, churches fear pushing churchgoers too hard, lest they head to a church down the road still catering to the congregation, promising “cheap grace” and reducing local missions to a couple quick compassion events.

What’s wrong with events?

The church was the food bank and homeless shelter for 1900 years.  It was engaged year round, helping deal with pressing social issues.  Churchgoers were expected to be salt and light to those around them between Sundays, following Jesus’ lead, acting as both servant and evangelist continually.

Yet the priorities of church leaders and members have shifted.  Assistance programs are handled by the government and local charities.  Only a small fraction of church members regularly serve outside the “4 walls”, while the rest occasionally write a check or sign up for an event.  Leaders have gotten busy running the church and members are busy with work, paying bills and raising families.  Nearly all churches today merely “dabble” in compassion in the community, running infrequent events that unfortunately…

  • Are transactional, not relational
  • Don’t address the real, ongoing issues in the lives of the lost
  • Fail to make meaningful or lasting change, providing a handout rather than a hand up
  • Fuel negative perception by making society question whether the event was simply promotion, or meant to make members feel good for having done something (versus truly caring about others)
  • Give the impression members are back at church patting themselves on the back for the good they did over the holidays when those in need are still hungry and hurting in January and February
  • Enable the church to “check the box”, giving pastors, staff and members a false sense of accomplishment

Yet church is the only source of enduring help and hope – found in Christ alone.  Government and secular charities can’t do that.  And church is the best place for seekers to land, to fellowship with other believers and grow in Christ.  Churches miss so many opportunities to reach people by abdicating relational compassion to other organizations and relying on transactional events.  Jesus’ model was to heal and feed and then say who He was, knowing the words weren’t enough.  Why do the vast majority of churches today try to “outpreach” Jesus?

So why do churches do events?

With all that downside, why would churches use events as the primary vehicle for local missions?  As with all other topics we’ve addressed in this blog, the answer lies in the Church’s gradual redefinition of its “customer”:

  • Reliance on events came with the territory as churches shifted from viewing the community to seeing members as their “customers”.  In other words, long-term relational engagement is much better for the community, but events are much better for institution-building and for catering to members:
    • As we discussed in our opening story, tasks like mentoring troubled youth are hard
    • Churches are cautious about challenging members to do the hard stuff
    • Getting members to do hard stuff requires discipleship, which is hard too
    • Because most churches don’t challenge members to develop the right mindset about their role as the embodiment of church between Sundays, few go out of their way to take on the tough tasks
  • So churches give members the “easy stuff” that keeps them coming back like:
    • a food drop-off in the church foyer
    • on campus meal packing
    • taking up an offering
    • a quick 3 hour event run by church staff
  • Events have the side benefit in the eyes of church leaders of building the “brand” by making a big splash (whereas long term engagement is quiet and behind the scenes)
  • Ironically, event management is harder on church staff but since most pastors and staff act as if they are the “church” and members are “customers”, they’re willing to endure that extra work rather that risk losing members by asking too much of them

What should churches be doing instead?

The greatest impact on the lives of individuals, the welfare of the community, and the advancement of the Kingdom comes from service that is highly:

  • Compassionate – e.g. shut-in and hospital visitation (for non-members)
  • Enduring – e.g. school partnerships
  • Relational – e.g. tutoring
  • Loving – e.g. prison ministry
  • Challenging – e.g. foster care
  • Sacrificial – e.g. inner city
  • Interactive – e.g. neighborhood outreach by small groups
  • Invitational – e.g. open the church for weekly career coaching, marriage counseling, recovery ministry, health/wellness classes, etc.

It’s Your Turn

What other ministries have you seen churches run which fit those criteria and are making a huge difference in a community?


20 Responses

  1. Much Needed feedback for todays church. Too many fancy church buildings, expensive homes, numerous Sunday morning services, no congregational care, Pastors far Too Grandeur to comrade with members, wife too 1st to dare to speak, members come to church every Sunday together but have no relational connections. There are more homeless people on the streets standing in front of vacant buildings that can be renovated with church volunteers to secure, cook and clean or just adopt the biilding (a Place of Love) as their own. Lets Care ❤

  2. Love it Jim!!

    Great call to actions and ways to change- not just pointing out the flaws but great corrective actions.

    I hope all churches will adapt this and take your advice. Press On!!

  3. Sponsoring a refugee family is a challenge more churches should take on. Bethany Christian Services has an excellent plan for churches, which informs of what committees need to be formed, amont of money a church should expect to spend (not much), etc. It’s great for church members to work together and it may get you out of your comfort zone as you get to know and deal with people from another culture. As well as being Christ’s hands in helping those who need help, it is a great learning opportunity.

    1. Mary – Churches working directly with refugee families is a great example of relational compassion that will change lives. Thanks for the suggestion.

  4. Acts of kindness are often a person’s or a congregation’s safe first step into love-your-neighbor activity. A good start but more is needed. Service projects, community development, justice advocacy, invite more into the action and offer wholistic solutions.


  5. I have been involved in street and prison ministry for 18 years and I can honestly tell you that while the vast majority of church goers aren’t involved it doesn’t mean the church isn’t doing a good job. I want to know if these articles ever ask why it is i never see Muslims, atheists Buddhist Hindus and all the other groups in the streets working? why is only the Christians and the Jewish believers being held to account? I have never seen and atheist hospital or a Muslim care center or a Hindu soup kitchen or a Buddhist aide center. Could the church do better of course but I believe that if it weren’t for the church things would be a whole lot worse than they are now. Also the homeless people are not usually some poor normal people who have lost their homes. they are,for the most part, mentally unstable and i would caution anyone who get into these kinds of ministries not to do it lightly because it can be very dangerous working with them in some cases. God loves us all and our message is salvation through Jesus Christ and He can do a much better job helping people than i can.

  6. For years I falsely assumed that spiritual growth as a Christian was directly proportional to how involved I was at church. For over 20 years I had a mindset that the contemporary church is program-driven and event-driven, and I would often feel that I was dishonoring God by not attending certain programs and events. I am praying that God would change that mindset in my life once and for all.

  7. I belong to a community garden run by a Church that produces fresh vegetables for the city’s local food pantry. Unfortunately it currently only has 11 members; 2 of which are not church members. They are trying to figure out how to expand to get more community involvement. It also opens up the gym for area youth to play basketball which provides interaction with the church.

    1. Great initiatives for sustained engagement in the community! Like you, I’d love to see more pastors and members getting involved in and supporting those types of ministries – they’re much more impactful and relational than occasional events.

    2. I am trying to decide in which recipes I will use the very expensive* bag of pecans I am going to buy. I think this one will probably make it into the cut!*All bags are expensive here, I think prhtobiiive is more the word for it.

  8. this is why we began city gate Lancaster. we were told if we wanted to feed then hungry and have a prayer ministry room, we had to leave to do so. I see how God worked it all now, because we have way more people involved in the working of ministry regionally that if we tried to get the few in the pews to do anything.

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